Online Dating Etiquette-When NOT To Respond To Emails

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I often get asked “Should I respond to every email I get online?”…my answer is NO and here is why!

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Hey, guys. Happy Friday. It’s Liz, and this is Ask Me What Day is Friday. This week I’m just going to give you a couple online dating tips. I wanted to throw these into my Friday segment so I’m going to start today.

A question I get all the time from my friends or people that are online dating and write into online dating. And they want to know, “Do I need to respond to every e-mail I get?” And, no, you do not need to respond to every e-mail that you get. I know that a lot of people say that it’s the polite thing to do, you get an e-mail, you write back, and you might have got some of these e-mails. I know that I have one. I mean I don’t know why someone would be interested in me. I get an e-mail like, “I don’t think we’re a good match.” Or, “Good luck with your search.” etc., etc. While that is all fine and dandy, here is the reason why I do not respond to every e-mail that I get, and I don’t think that you should either. First of all, that takes up a lot of time. Composing an e-mail, sending it, I am totally anal… I can’t speak but I can write… anal about grammar and making sure I sound really nice and it would be really difficult for me to write a quote, unquote rejection e-mail to somebody that I don’t even know.

Personally, I think that no answer is enough of an answer. No answer means I got your e-mail, they can check to see if it’s been read… I always check to see if my messages that I sent have been read. And when they’ve been read for a couple of days and the person’s been online – I sound like a stalker – I know that they’re just not interested in me for whatever reason. I don’t take it personal, and then off I go. There’s no reason for me to write a follow up e-mail or… I mean you just seem like a little creepy when you do that. Also, it can be a little off-putting to somebody. There’s no need… I know online, you get that attention, you get those e-mails, and you think this person is sitting at his computer hoping and praying that you write him back. And you might be the hottest thing ever, and he might be doing that. So let’s count on he’s probably e-mailing you and 25 other girls, and hoping and praying that 3 or 4 of them write him back. So if you don’t, you’re not going to crush him, you’re not going to ruin his day, just don’t waste your time. And time, to me, is the most precious thing. So I don’t write someone back simply because I don’t have the time, and I’d rather spend that time e-mailing the guy that I totally want to get to know.

I usually check my online dating inbox a couple of hours before I go to bed, when I’m watching TV, when I’m reading the news, and by news I mean blogs. During that time is when I want to get it all out. I don’t really like online dating all day long, especially while I’m working. So the time that I spend, I want to make sure it is quality and really reaching out to the people that I want to talk to. I hoped that helped and let me know of anymore online dating questions for Ask Me What Day. Talk to you guys soon. Bye.

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TrumpLjvesMatter Making Gamerica Great Again says:

I just love how it's always these stuck up hot chicks every time they upload a youtube complaint about this shit. Fuck off.

Brad Horner says:

I strongly disagree with this woman. In fact, I think what she says is complete rubbish. Almost every dating website has an automated function where a person asks if somebody would be interested in email contact, before email contact is even established in the first place. 

If person A gives person B the green light to email them and person A does not reply to an email from person B, person B has every right to feel offended. This woman talks about how her time is so important to her. What about the time of the person who has been given the green light to send an email that is wasted, when the person at the other end is just not interested? That is incredibly rude in my book.

The internet is making people more rude and our standards in treating others with respect is declining terribly. How can you expect to be treated respectfully by others if you don't treat others with respect. Any wonder relationships don't last these days with the declining standards of respect for others and the exponential growth in selfishness?

supafamouz says:

By the way, fuck dating.

supafamouz says:

Marvelously eloquent good Sir.

Tina Rhodes says:

I am on two dating sites and quite frankly I don't get that many emails of interest. I'm not hideous by any means but an over 40 yr old woman with young kids and red hair just doesn't attract too many guys. So if someone is as young and attractive as you are, I am sure they would get too many emails to respond to. Also, most sites have a no thanks link or button that takes one second to click so its not too much to expect that. The Internet is making us a ruder people and we are allowing it.

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