Preventing Online Dating Flaking

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How to properly set dates with women you’ve met via online dating and social media sites to prevent flaking and being stood up.

In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who has been following my work for the past year. He said prior to my work he had mediocre success with women. He’s done really well with meeting women in person and setting dates successfully that they kept. However, he recently starting trying his luck at Tinder and has been stood up twice. I tell him what he needs to do differently to ensure that women keep dates and show up instead of standing him up.

“When someone is genuinely interested in you romantically they are excited and enthusiastic to make plans with you and/or give you their contact information. Women need to feel safe and comfortable before they will spend time alone with a man they just met. When it comes to online dating, it’s always best to chat on the phone to see if the conversation flows before agreeing to meet in person. It is even smarter to do a Skype Video Date or a Face-Time chat before planning a date in person to ensure they are who they say they are, resemble their pictures and so you can read their body language and create rapport. The less research and rapport building you do up front before planning a date in person, the more time you will waste with people who don’t look like their pictures, who stand you up and who conversing with in person is like pulling teeth. For both men and women, there is nothing worse than being on a date you can’t wait to end.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne

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PFS Cure says:

"useless as a Fart in a space suit." Classic. I love it!

shanecle says:

The Orlando girl, that must have been torture!

sixstringstak says:

Dude love your work. You have so many damn videos. This is the one I’ve been looking for lol! I’m on my 2nd read and loving it!

John Whitaker says:

Hey coach, if you give your number out and instead of texting or calling me like I ask, she gives me her number on Match should I still wait a few days to call her?

Skyview Productions says:

The best thing about online dating, especially if you're coming out of a long term relationship, is that it teaches you that there a plenty of women out there from all walks of life who are interested in you. If you have a "next woman up" attitude instead of getting hung up on one woman, you instantly become more appealing because you don't have the stench of desperation. You still have to have game and know how to communicate with a woman to enhance attraction, but the cold approach part is removed since you pretty much know that if they contact you they're interested in you. I'm just getting back into the dating scene and online dating has helped me get my groove back and start learning how to interact with attractive women again. Next mission is to tighten my game for in person approaches. I also just finished Coach Wayne's book and it's very good. Not a pick up manual for douches, but an how-to guide on forming lasting relationships with women.

ActivistVictor says:

Really getting sick of flakes to be honest, I’ve talked to no fewer than ten women online the past month and only one of them ended up getting a date, the rest of the bitches just suddenly stopped talking for no reason. It’s fine if you’re not interested but that approach is truly disrespectful to me as a person, not to mention childish

Alexandra A says:

I hate online dating. Everything you said about it is the truth. It's so much HARDER to get to know them. Because online/texting they can edit and tell you anything. So, it just takes a lot longer to get to know them. I think it sucks.

rtljmc says:

COACH!

what if the girl says she wont you her number but she will give Facebook snapchat or any other messaging app that I want.

her excuse was she had some bad experiences with creepy tinder guys so is afraid to give out her number. (hot brazilian girl in a foreign country so lots of guys she could have)

I fee this is a test. she is seeing if I will bend to her will or be willing to walk. she is gorgeous but i am willing to walk if she isnt playing ball.
i think most guys would agree to her demands and then she wouldnt respect it.

i dont want a be blunt or rude. i want to make a joke out what she said about creepy guys. but also be firm ive no interest in following her snapchat, as any guy can add her from her username on her Instagram.

thanks coach

The .Guyzer says:

Hey Coach! I met this girl about 3 months ago at work who I just connected with instantly on a level I can't even begin to explain. It was as if we knew each other from a past life or something lol. Anyway we hit it off pretty strong and she was all over me, I had already purchased and read your book so I knew what to do and more importantly what not to do. I got her number and set up a date with her the following day.

 Then things started getting strange fast, the girl who was just all over me a few days ago had started acting flakey and unsure if  she wanted to go out or not. She actually flaked on the first date. (red flag)  She later texted me that night saying she was really sorry and asked how my day went, it was late so I didn't reply until the next morning. Fast forward a few weeks and we ended up going out a twice, and we had a really good fun light hearted time both times, I went for the kiss and she turned away and just said sorry.(red flag)  I didn't understand why because she flirts with me super hard, touches me when she doesn't have to,  brushes up against me and looks deeply into my eyes and everything when I'm around her. She's super into me and I can tell. 

She later texted me and told me that she has feelings for me but she just wants to be friends for right now to which I responded No Thanks but if you change your mind call me(in a nice but firm way) 

I later asked I mutual friend to us both at work if he knew what was up with her, apparently she had just gotten out of a really fucked up relationship a few months ago. She didn't tell me about it. I think she doesn't want to get hurt again and is putting up walls around her heart, however despite what she says about wanting to be friends, her eyes and body language don't lie. It's as if she's trying to hide the way she really feels inside and its super annoying. At this point I haven't contacted her at all and when I do see her at work I keep the whole convo strictly work related.  Normally I'd just walk away from the whole situation and move on(and from her perspective I have). We don't talk much at work but when I do see her she acts embarrassed around me, if we make eye contact she hurries and looks away, she sometimes even blushes. And I'll be honest I still feel butterflies when she's around too. It's just that magical connection we have that makes me want things to work out. Any advice coach? I really like this girl alot, but don't know if she's worth the stress. I'm dating a few other women now and they are beautiful good hearted women but none of them make me feel the way she did, even now after all that bs, the connection we have is just so strong. Should I continue to give her space and stay no contact or make one final attempt with her?

Mayumi Okinawa says:

this question is for guys to answer, please: when you approach a girl online, she lives in different country and far away from you. Then you know the girl really likes you back. but then for some reason you being hot and cold to her, and didn't reply her last text (you made a reason that you are busy)
then she said it's better for her to leave you alone. and you still not replying her.
Now it's been 6 months since her last text and the girl never text you anymore because she doesn't want to bother you, she sense that you're not interested to her anymore.
will you keep her phone number? if YES why?
fyi, this girl lives in different country from you.
thanks!

blondeegirl00 says:

I won't online date anymore. You'll have to grow a pair and approach me at the grocery store.

Daybit95 says:

I know Corey always tell men to invite women over to their house and have champagne, but what if you're in college living with your parents and is underage? Maybe you can offer an alternative tweak for us younger students Corey?

crashvector says:

stop acting like you are going on a job interview and the woman is your potential boss.

If a woman acts like you have to earn the privilege of being with her, then she's not worth YOUR time.

I ended countless dates because the woman was obviously entitled with a princess complex. Trust me, no matter HOW hot a woman is, she will NEVER be hot enough to put up with that shit.

Tyrone B says:

Taking my chances here that Corey Wayne will see this, but… What if said oversees gal is of modest income? I have been talking to a gal online through emails and phone calls for 4 months. Initially sceptical of a scam but she has jumped through all my hoops. Now she wants to visit but it would take her a year on her salary to pay for her ticket and travel docs. What to do….

J Leo says:

You're the man Coach

Edward Hiroko says:

So many comments about tinder and okcupid, but not a single one about Corey's kitchen?

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