Have you ever had a really good day, and then one small ‘bad’ thing unexpectedly happens, and it’s like you completely forget all of the good, instead becoming completely consumed by the one negative thing? You just can’t stop thinking about it and replaying it over and over in your mind?
It’s called ‘FILTERING’, and it’s a form of negativity bias, which is our tendency not only to register negative stimuli quicker than positive stimuli (for example negative thoughts, emotions or traumatic events), but we also dwell on these events far longer.
This is why if you receive 10 pieces of feedback, with 9 being positive and 1 negative, you seem to place more weight on the negative one… am I right??
This then has a detrimental effect on your psychological state and how your feel, and ultimately, what you end up doing.
So, what can you do about it?
Here are four steps:
1️⃣ When you notice yourself focussing on something negative, take a moment to catch yourself out. Question the basis of your thoughts. Are you ignoring other information? Have you magnified the negative? Are you becoming unreasonably self-critical? Are you self-blaming?
2️⃣ Look at the evidence and what’s really happening. Try to be an objective as possible. What are the facts?
3️⃣ Ask yourself whether other people would have drawn the same conclusions as you did. Are you being too hard on yourself? (Hint: The answer is generally: “Yes…”).
4️⃣ Come up with counter arguments. What are other explanations for what’s happened? How can you see it from the perspective of growth?
Working through this process can help get you back into a more rational state.
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