There is a certain degree of fear that exists within any relationship. For some people this fear is overwhelming. They will avoid dating or pursuing relationships due to the fact that they are scared. They may have had bad experiences in the past. They may just be shy or have their own reasons for being afraid.
Some people simply have a fear of commitment. They may be afraid of losing their freedom. They may not want to risk being hurt. They protect their heart and do not want to risk anything happening to it. No matter what the issue is, it is well documented that in some cases fear will control a person’s life. They are not capable of functioning effectively within the world. This creates a major problem and can devastate some people.
The first thing to do in conquering fears is to admit that you are afraid. Be willing to say you have a problem. This is often the most difficult step on the process of overcoming the fear. Once you can open up and talk to people, they will be able to see that you get the help you need to get better. If you do not talk about your fear, there is no way for anyone to help you deal with it. You may not be dealing with it yourself. Perhaps you have put it in the back of your mind and are pretending that there is nothing wrong.
After you have admitted your fear, you can start to deal with it and overcome it. There are many ways to deal with your fear. Perhaps you need to have someone to talk to. Maybe a friend or family member is a good source of help for you. Talk with people and see what help they can offer you. Perhaps someone has been through the same things or something similar and can offer you expert advice. If you do not get any answers from your support system, look for fear related discussion groups. You can do a search on the internet to find groups in your area. This puts you in touch with people that are suffering the same way that you are.
Do not try to date while you are overcoming your fears. This is a sure way to set you up for failure. You are not completely happy with yourself. If you are not happy and content with your individual life, you cannot give your whole self to a relationship and be completely happy with another person. You will doom the relationship before it ever begins. It is best to completely heal yourself before you begin dating.
No matter what the issues are that you are facing, it is important to know that they can be dealt with and handled. You can overcome and live a happy, fulfilled life. It is possible to work everything out and then find the person that you are meant to spend the rest of your life with. You will be happy and at peace within yourself. This makes it possible to love someone and put your whole heart into the relationship.